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Insights from “Bouncing Back”
Parents share insights gained from last week’s Parents+ program, “Bouncing Back…Building Resiliency in the Classroom, on the Playing Field, and In Life”
Parents share insights gained from last week’s Parents+ program, “Bouncing Back…Building Resiliency in the Classroom, on the Playing Field, and In Life”:
Don't be afraid to accept failure. Everybody fails. If you're not willing to take risks, it will hold you back. Just have a plan for those failures.
Create a character for the aggressive, confident, mentally strong side of yourself - give it a name. (Performance Identity) Use that character to get you out of a slump. Try to stay in that character.
Unfortunate event. Instead of internalizing a failure as a defect or a bad pattern or starting to beat yourself up, decide that the "bad situation" was an "unfortunate event". Treat it as an isolated thing and that it was unfortunate but now you can move on with normalcy.
Always have a plan for failure. Have a back up plan. Decide how you will handle adverse events BEFORE they happen.
Positive attitude! We can control our beliefs and our actions, even if we can't control our circumstances. Mental toughness!
When you do get in a funk, step back and regroup. Train yourself to talk to yourself about your back up plan in the moment. Consciously act, don't react!
Not if, but when you do fail, treat it like a "whew!, thank goodness that bomb is out of the way. Now I can go ahead and do it right." mentality.
Pick out a characteristic of strength that you are missing and work on it for an entire day ( bulletproof, fearless, confident, aggressive, swagger, never giving up, smart, confident, decisive, tough).
The evolution of self "positive talk" can help grow resiliency throughout one’s life. The first step is allowing and accepting less than stellar performance by saying, "that is so unlike me" or "how unfortunate." Then moving to, "I can do better next time." And finally, seeing the positive action follow. It is the "get up, dust yourself off and do it again" mentality that our parent's generation had. Failure is not a "show stopper," rather an opportunity to learn from a challenge or set back and then do better!
Our bodies need fuel every few hours, so a healthy snack should be encouraged!
Keep yourself hydrated and keep your bodies fueled very 4 hours with good fuel.
Take a water bottle to school.
Make sure you eat a protein with a carb to extend the energy levels.
Slides from the "Bouncing Back" presentation may be found on the Parents+ webpage.
The next Parents+ program is geared specifically for parents of Lower School students. “Brain Rules…What Science Can Tell Us About Raising Smart, Healthy Children” will be presented October 30 at 11:00 a.m. in the Lower School Library. Join Randolph counselors and lower school faculty representatives to learn more. Register your attendance here.